I am obsessed with personal development because it has helped me completely change my life. Only 10 years ago I had no connections, no money, and worked in retail for minimum wage. Now I have a doctorate. from Berkeley, I am the author of a book on How to Generate Happiness in the Age of Technology and have created a variety of wellness enhancing programs. And that’s because I worked to develop myself. So how do you make personal development work for you?
Personal development can include any skill you develop to improve yourself: your emotions, thoughts, or behaviors. It doesn’t really matter what skills you want to improve; the key to personal development is taking the right actions, actions that help you achieve the goal you are striving for.
Learn more in the video below:
What are the most important personal development skills? It really depends on what you are trying to achieve. But here are 9 that I have found important for successful personal development.
1. Start by determining the personal development skills you need to develop. The first step in any personal development strategy is figuring out how to best use your time. It doesn’t make sense to learn to code if you don’t plan on being a coder or doing the 400-pound bench press if you don’t plan on being a weightlifter. These can be hobbies, but personal development is more about developing skills to achieve your personal goals. It is therefore good to take the time to reflect. (If wellness is one of your goals, take this wellness quiz to see what skills you need to develop.)
2. Develop entrepreneurial thinking. Anyone can benefit from learning to think like an entrepreneur, whether you are one or not. Why? Because entrepreneurs are innovative, good at planning all possible outcomes, and skilled at getting others to buy into their vision or dream. And perhaps more importantly for personal development, they tend to adapt to all kinds of situations.
By developing an entrepreneurial spirit, you adapt better to all your circumstances in order to more easily achieve your goals, whether it is to start a business that has a positive impact in the world, to prepare yourself for a early retirement or climb Mount Everest.
3. Develop a growth mindset. If we have a “fixed mindset” we can avoid challenges that might help us grow. But it can be problematic because our fear of making mistakes can cause us to avoid challenges and new experiences, experiences that would help us grow, improve in meaningful ways, and create the life we ââdesire.
If we have a âgrowth mindset,â we look for challenges because we value learning and growing more than feeling smart or knowing what we’re doing. This is why those with a growth mindset often develop new skills more easily: they believe they can and therefore they really work at it.
4. Develop your self-calming mechanism. High levels of stress are not only bad for our health and well-being, they can prevent us from effectively pursuing and achieving our personal development goals. By learning effective and long-lasting relaxation techniques, your body and mind will be better equipped to deal with the inevitable challenges that arise when trying to develop yourself.
5. Develop resilience. Resilience is that super important skill that helps you bounce back quickly after being knocked down. This is one of the most important skills for success because none of us will be successful if we don’t keep trying when we fail. We can build resilience by improving skills such as regulating emotions, mindfulness, and positivity.
6. Develop your compass of worth. It is not always easy to live by our core values. But when we go through life without following our personal values, we can easily get lost. We can suddenly âwake upâ and realize that we are not who we want to be or where we want to be. This is why it is so important to stay in tune with our personal values.
What are your values? Maybe: kindness, curiosity, creativity, hard work, or personal connections. Define your personal values ââin order to know which actions are in harmony with these values.
7. Create a personal development plan. A good personal development plan takes all of these factors into consideration: the WHAT, the HOW, the WHY and the WHEN. And it focuses on long term goals. So ask yourself:
- What skills will you develop?
- How are you going to build them?
- Why will you build them?
- And when will you build them?
It can be helpful to create a 10-year plan to determine how you will achieve these goals.
8. Record your progress towards personal development. Keeping track of our progress as we move towards our personal development goals is essential to making sure we’re on the right track. Then we can take a break and take a different direction if we have deviated. By maintaining self-awareness and checking with ourselves frequently, we can identify things that we need to pay more attention to. As a result, we can better progress towards our personal development.
9. Keep developing yourself in new ways. The science is clear: the more ways we grow, the more extensive our skills are and the more successful we tend to be. So try to learn new emotional skills or do activities to develop new skills. You might just learn something that changes your life.
Facebook / LinkedIn images: GaudiLab / Shutterstock