Can you tell if God is disappointed with you?


Last night at our ladies Bible study, we wondered if we could deceive God. The question sparked lively discussion and a deeper dive into Scripture. For years, my instinctive answer would have been yes. I thought an angry cosmic being in the sky was grimacing at my Christian performance. I imagined him to be very reactionary to my paltry prayer life and occasional profanity.

A friend of mine sent me a link to a YouVersion event on titled “Is God Disappointed in Me?” Any of you who are struggling with this idea should check it out. The teaching centers on three questions: How do we know that God is not disappointed in our failures? How do we know if God is pleased with us? Can we live without fear of disappointing God? I think these are big questions and ones that every believer has struggled with.

Honestly, I believed I had the power to make God feel all kinds of negative emotions. But I realized that this placed me at the center of the universe and not of God. If my behavior can change his mood, we all have problems. Don’t get me wrong, He has a personality and emotions, which are listed as “fruit of the Spirit” in the Bible. These traits are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control.

I think he put his Holy Spirit in us so that we could benefit from his emotions and personality traits, not the other way around. It is an exchange system. We give him our negative waste like fear and doubt, and he gives us peace, joy and love. The more we hang out with him, the more like him we become. He knew who we were when he chose us, so he’s not surprised at our negative trash. This even includes my binge-watching Project Runway instead of reading my Bible.

I know many will disagree with me, and that’s okay, but I don’t believe we have the power to disappoint an all-knowing God. He knew everything that would happen in this world even before he said, “Let there be light.” He already knew that we would need Jesus. He knew that I would tend to swear once in a while and fall asleep during prayer time. And He still chose me. He still chose you. But honestly, that’s not why he’s not disappointed. He is not disappointed because the cross has destroyed the possibility.

Here is what God himself has to say about it in the scriptures: “God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, not counting the sins of people against them. [but canceling them]. He made Christ who knew no sin for [judicially] to be sinned in our place so that in him we may become the righteousness of God [that is, we would be made acceptable to Him and placed in a right relationship with Him by His gracious lovingkindness](2 Corinthians 5:19 & 21 Amplified Bible).

Remember that the next time you think God is wringing his hands because of whatever wrongdoing you have done. He’s not disappointed with you. You are disappointed in yourself. And the power to overcome those things you don’t like about yourself is in accepting it and loving it.

Cris Corzine-McCloskey is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and Director of Care Counseling Ministries. CCM is a non-profit corporation with the goal of providing affordable biblical counseling to people living in southern Illinois. Our office is located at 11264 Route 37 Marion, IL. To make an appointment, please call (618) 997-2129.


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